| Healthy: Deeply receptive, accepting,
unselfconscious, emotionally stable and
serene. Trusting of self and others, at
ease with self and life, innocent and simple.
Patient, unpretentious, good-natured, genuinely
nice people. / Optimistic, reassuring, supportive:
have a healing and calming influence
harmonizing groups, bringing people together:
a good mediator, synthesizer, and communicator.
At Their Best: Become self-possessed,
feeling autonomous and fulfilled: have great
equanimity and contentment because they
are present to themselves. Paradoxically,
at one with self, and thus able to form
more profound relationships. Intensely alive,
fully connected to self and others.
Average: Fear conflicts, so become
self-effacing and accommodating, idealizing
others and "going along" with
their wishes, saying "yes" to
things they do not really want to do. Fall
into conventional roles and expectations.
Use philosophies and stock sayings to deflect
others./ Active, but disengaged, unreflective,
and inattentive. Do not want to be affected,
so become unresponsive and complacent, walking
away from problems, and "sweeping them
under the rug." Thinking becomes hazy
and ruminative, mostly comforting fantasies,
as they begin to "tune out" reality,
becoming oblivious. Emotionally indolent,
unwillingness to exert self or to focus
on problems: indifference. / Begin to minimize
problems, to appease others and to have
"peace at any price." Stubborn,
fatalistic, and resigned, as if nothing
could be done to change anything. Into wishful
thinking, and magical solutions. Others
frustrated and angry by their procrastination
and unresponsiveness.
Unhealthy: Can be highly repressed,
undeveloped, and ineffectual. Feel incapable
of facing problems: become obstinate, dissociating
self from all conflicts. Neglectful and
dangerous to others. / Wanting to block
out of awareness anything that could affect,
them, they dissociate so much that they
eventually cannot function: numb, depersonalized.
/ They finally become severely disoriented
and catatonic, abandoning themselves, turning
into shattered shells. Multiple personalities
possible.
Key Motivations: Want to create
harmony in their environment, to avoid conflicts
and tension, to preserve things as they
are, to resist whatever would upset or disturb
them.
Examples: Abraham Lincoln, Joseph
Campbell, Carl Jung, Ronald Reagan, Gerald
Ford, Queen Elizabeth II, Princess Grace,
Walter Cronkite, George Lucas, Walt Disney,
John Kennedy, Jr., Sophia Loren, Geena Davis,
Lisa Kudrow, Kevin Costner, Keanu Reeves,
Woody Harrelson, Ron Howard, Matthew Broderick,
Ringo Starr, Whoopi Goldberg, Janet Jackson,
Nancy Kerrigan, Jim Hensen, Marc Chagall,
Norman Rockwell, "Edith Bunker"
(Archie Bunker), and "Marge Simpson"
(The Simpsons). |